Should Christian Parents Spank Their Children?

When it comes to spanking, opinions range across the board. Some parents think you should never spank children and some parents think you should always spank children. But what does the Bible say about spanking?

The only book of the Bible that deals with spanking is Proverbs. This presents us with a bit of a conundrum. Proverbs by their very nature are generally true statements that are not meant to apply to every situation. For example, Proverbs 26:4 says, “Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him,” while Proverbs 26:5 says, “Answer a fool according to his folly, or he will be wise in his own eyes.” What are you supposed to do? Answer a fool or not? Or take a couple modern proverbs: “Many hands make light work,” and “Too many cooks in the kitchen.” Should you help in the kitchen on Super Bowl Sunday or not? Again, it depends on the situation. Proverbs themselves are meant to be used with wisdom. Keep that in mind as you read the following proverbs about spanking. The different Bible versions reflect what I believe are the best translations of each proverb.

Whoever spares the rod hates their children,

but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

Proverbs 13:24 (NIV)

Don't be afraid to correct your young ones; a spanking won't kill them.

A good spanking, in fact, might save them from something worse than death.

Proverbs 23:13-14 (The Message)

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away.

Proverbs 22:15 (NIV)

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

Proverbs 29:15 (ESV)

Discipline your son while there is hope, and do not desire his death.

Proverbs 19:18 (NASB)

Discipline your children; you'll be glad you did— they'll turn out delightful to live with.

Proverbs 29:17 (The Message)

How would you summarize what Proverbs says about spanking? If you are inclined to answer, “Spank your children,” then hear this word of caution: Proverbs are generally true statements that are not meant to apply to every situation. Some of your children might need spankings and others might not. God leaves it to you to make this decision. However, if you are inclined against spanking, then heed the advice of these proverbs: Don’t rule out spanking. Although it may seem illogical, spanking can be one of the best ways you love your children.

Whether or not to spank your children is a tough decision, but if you ask God, he will give you the wisdom you need to make the best choice for your children. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” And whatever you decide about spanking, be careful not to tell other parents what they should decide. God has called and enabled each parent to make this decision for their own children. Don’t assume that what works for your children will work for theirs too.

By God’s Grace,

Pastor Stephen